Become a Behavior Detective: Here are 10 things you can say to translate your child’s behavior
By Ava Parnass
Say to your child:
1: Your mood or behavior is telling me you have something on your mind!
2: I know it’s hard to talk about how we feel but you won’t get in trouble for telling the truth.
3: I think it’s a good thing for this family to learn to understand hidden feelings under our behavior.
4: Do you think I need to listen better so you can talk to me?
5: Do I seem too busy or distracted?
6: How can I become a better listener?
7: I will just say “I’m sorry that happened” or “Sorry your feelings were hurt.”
8: I will not say, “That’s not true.” So remember – you can tell me things and trust me to understand.
9: Let’s play a game and draw or sing about how we feel.
10: The book “Listen To Me Please” has conversation starters we can use to help us put our behavior into feelings words.